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People who choose to work with me are often looking for coaching that offers more than just accountability or goal-setting frameworks. When people bring their challenges to coaching, we sometimes find we need to go deeper, and depth requires understanding how people really work. Because of this, increasingly, I describe myself as someone who coaches with therapeutic awareness.

Many of the people I work with express a sense of pressure to match the energy of those around them. This pressure is often subtle and hard to detect, but you might find it in internal whispers of “shoulds” or comparisons with others (“I should be doing better”, or “I should be doing more”). We might be harshly judging ourselves for not feeling the push that others seem to feel.

For many people, it feels like there's not enough love and kindness in the world at the moment. This loving kindness practice can help us bridge that gap.

Traditional goal-setting advice assumes that everything will go smoothly and is fixated on outcomes like losing weight or getting a promotion. This is all fine, except outcomes can sometimes be outside of your control. You can do everything right and still not get to what you want.

For some of you reading this, December isn't just tiring, it's genuinely difficult. If that's you, I want you to know that you're not broken. You're not a Grinch. You're not ungrateful. You're a human being having a human response to something that's genuinely hard for you. The shift that happens from knowing something doesn’t feel right to adapting to the discomfort can cross into self-abandonment.

We're adaptable creatures and we're highly skilled at working around problems. If a relationship doesn't support us, it becomes something that we manage. If a career drains us, it becomes something we endure for security and we hold hope that things will improve. The shift that happens from knowing something doesn’t feel right to adapting to the discomfort can cross into self-abandonment.