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Traditional goal-setting advice assumes that everything will go smoothly and is fixated on outcomes like losing weight or getting a promotion. This is all fine, except outcomes can sometimes be outside of your control. You can do everything right and still not get to what you want.

For some of you reading this, December isn't just tiring, it's genuinely difficult. If that's you, I want you to know that you're not broken. You're not a Grinch. You're not ungrateful. You're a human being having a human response to something that's genuinely hard for you. The shift that happens from knowing something doesn’t feel right to adapting to the discomfort can cross into self-abandonment.

We're adaptable creatures and we're highly skilled at working around problems. If a relationship doesn't support us, it becomes something that we manage. If a career drains us, it becomes something we endure for security and we hold hope that things will improve. The shift that happens from knowing something doesn’t feel right to adapting to the discomfort can cross into self-abandonment.